Developing a Zone Defense

The Scholtens family (Kurt, Whitney, Mac, and Bennett) have been engaged in the journey of adoption. On Friday 3/16 Kurt and Whitney will be taking our first trip to Ethiopia to meet our sweet little man and stand in front of an Ethiopian court to state our intent to adopt. We are not the first to have this experience and with God's will, we will be far from the last. We'd like to offer up a praise for the joy in learning through this process. The EGM family has been an integral part of preparing us for this journey, from our first realization that this story is not about us, to the most recent series of messages forcing us to acknowledge that we are Untied. God's been preparing our hearts through EGM and removing obstacles SO THAT this journey can be made real for us and our little man in Ethiopia. Rejoice!

That said, the journey continues and with very short notice, we are heading to Ethiopia on Friday. We have a rough idea of what to expect, but will be submitting ourselves to many unknowns. Pray with us that God will keep our senses fresh and allow Love and Compassion rule our hearts and minds rather than fears or judgement that might be present in such an unknown environment. What a great Adventure!

Mischief Men

Just look at these faces! Can you see the mischief of boys in this house? Most days we think that this mischief is loads of fun... That's why we're making it a trio! That's right, you heard it. We've got another son whom we are eagerly awaiting to bring over 7500 miles to his home here in Michigan.

It's crazy how attached one can become to a name, a photo, the notion and a promise. He is 7 and a half months old and doesn't even know we exist, how much he is loved and cherished, the mischief his brothers have planned for him... I wish I could tell him. I wish I could hold him. I wish I could make him laugh. I wish he knew we were coming.

James 1:27 says religion in its purest form is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world. The latter part can feel like a bit of a tall order, but this much I know is true: Hambisa, you are no longer an orphan.

It has been years that we have talked about adoption; it was a normal part of our family conversation It has been just months since we began the official process and home study, back in August. Early in the process, Macabe and Bennett were told we were going to be adopting from Ethiopia. With several books from the library to help explain a bit of the country, we all sat on the bed to learn a little more together. Macabe was so captivated by the photos and the notion, he took a headlamp to bed, along with those library books to continue the exploration.

In the beginning, adoption preparation is just a lot of paperwork. It feels impersonal to be thinking of adding to the family and just having busy work. But that's all before the referral comes. Now we sit and wait for the US and the Ethiopian governments to process the necessary paperwork to make this happen smoothly for our growing family. In the meantime, we will continue to talk to his picture, to pray for our little man, and learn how to wait with patience and grace.

Crazy Good Times

Mighty Mac...yes, we let him do this, but at least he's wearing his helmet. (We certainly did not make him wear those neon/orange socks.)

Bennett Flying high...yet keeping his feet just where he wants them, firmly planted on the ground.

While Bennett will jump off just about anything, he does prefer 'ground' activities. To say he is not a fan of swim lessons would be an understatement, but he is a trooper about trying, depite the crying. On the other hand, big brother is a complete fish!

This year we had a pumpkin and a puppy for Halloween. Handing out candy to all the fun kids and costumes coming to our house is still preferred to Trick-or-Treating. Mom and Dad are okay with that too.

And this is the triple threat...the three amigos. Lucy puts up with a lot of antics when they find crazy hiding spots for her, when they practice jumping over her. But most of all, she likes the snuggles that sometimes turn into tackles. Lets be honest, with a houseful of boys, wrestling is a favorite pasttime around here. Tag team yourself in, if you dare. But it is one of our favorite ways to have a crazy good time around here!

A Scholtens Summer: Just Add Water

No, not all rain, but any sort of water activitiy. Umbrellas, swimming pools and lakes, slip-n-slides, sprinklers, camping and the cottage...all essential elements to the summer here this year. The boys have become each others preferred playmate for now. We spent some time in Georgia this spring visiting Grammy and GrampS where the boys "shared" a room. After lots of giggling, laughing, joke telling and several adult interventions, at 10 pm when they had stripped the bedof sheets, they were separated. I opted to be thankful they are friends. Oh the trouble this could mean! :)








For Macabe, this summer has been about riding bikes, swimming, dogs, Daddy-o, Grammy and Nana, and more bikes and water. He prides himself in recently learning to swim without a life jacket and jump in the water. He is a real fish, usually has to be dragged out of the water shivering. tube rides at the cottage are a weekend favorite, and he's big on the hand signal for faster. The orange bicycle was a birthday present. If you ask him when his birthday is, he'll tell you "It's either March or March 10. I can't remember which one."

These days everything lis also measured in "Daddy" units. "Wow! That building is huge. It's like 10 Daddies tall." or "Mom, how many Daddies does it take to get to China?"








Bennett prefers some of the less adventurous ways to explore the water sports, drinking from the sprinklers, watching tube rides from the boat and a nice jet ski rides. It is actually a common occurrence for him to fall asleep on the jet ski and ride until the gas runs out.

Along with his height, his language has really exploded in recent months. Just the other day he saw a "wabby bunnit" (aka bunny rabbit). Okay, so we get alittle confused about some of the animals, but Fred at the grocery store appreciates a visit from Bennett each time. Fred is a "wompster" (lobster). And one of his favorite snacks is raspberries and "flamingos" (mangoes).

Bennett is a bit embarassed yet about his new hole in his head. He is a bit more rough and tumble on steady ground, and has lost his front tooth! Hopefully a visit from the tooth fairy will help with that.

Stay tuned...we'll post some more summer slideshow picks soon.

Eskimos and Penguins

That's right...Igloos! The church in the backyard pushes their snow into a pile that makes for great snow caves. Dad worked to carve it out so we all fit inside, even Lucy gets in. We've found our favorite time to be at night with our head lamps on.

We've had so much fun this year int he snow. Bennett is not sure he likes sledding yet, but Macabe will take any adventure he can get. The neighbors thought we were crazy when we snow-blowed the front yard to make a giant pile of snow, but they have been over to play on our homegrown sledding hill. Now, tonight, we await 15 in. of snow forecasted. Ooo-wee!

Macabe continues to love music and school, and really just wants to be able to read. He has become very imaginative in his play and a current favorite is setting up to play grocery store with old boxes from our kitchen. Recently he came to us upset that he was trying to play but "Bennett is antagonizing me."

Then again, turnabout is fairplay as a sibling, right?...While both strapped into their carseats (out of each others' reach), I have found Bennett crying, very upset. When asked what is wrong, he'll say, "Mac just bop-bop at me!" I look at Mac and his is just singing in his seat, "Bop-bop-bop-bop," quietly...yet grinning in shear enjoyment! Seriously?

Really, despite this "brotherly love," the boys have been the best of friends lately. The house is filled with giggles, laughter, chasing, tackling, fun, games, and jokes...the stuff that dreams are made of!

Bennett is into all things boy. Cars, balls, basketball, football, tackling. While his brother is his buddy, he also really enjoys those days Macabe is in school and he gets that one-on-one time with Mom. His date with Mom often times involves a doughnut for him and a coffee for Mom. Mmm! Though most of his responses to questions are either "I-O-know" (I don't know) or "Because Yeah", if you ask him what his Dad does for work, he'll tell you "he sells camels" (aka chemicals). The market for camels isn't so great in West Michigan, but chemicals, yes.

And let's not forget the Ring Boys in Anna's and Chris's wedding! We had some of the best looking penguins around. Trying our best to prep the boys prior the wedding, we reminded them that they would need to put on their tux and walk Mommy down the aisle. So that is just what Macabe did. He put on his tux, walked Mommy down the aisle...and took it off. Yup, he immediately began undressing and when we'd try to get him to leave clothes on, he'd just shout, "This itches! When can I take it off?!"

Both boys were enhausted at the end of the day, but boy did they find the reception to be the best dance party ever!

Fall Festivities and Christmas Wishes

October was warm, so the trips to the orchards after running through the sprinklers seemed less than "Fall-ish." Nonetheless, we had a great time on the pumpkin ride and drinking "apple spider."

Halloween was as fun as ever with Thing 1 and Thing 2. It was the perfect type cast for these two crazy kids who love to run and be silly. These Things enjoyed handing out candy to see all the other costumes even more than collecting their own. And even better, they took their costumes to visit Grampa Lepard (aka Bumpa or Bump) at the office, where we promptly dressed him as the Cat in the Hat to parade around the office. This fall we also made our first trip to Great Wolf Lodge to test out the indoor water park fun. All four of us had such a great time, we can hardly wait to do it again.

Just this weekend we had a fun house, full of Scholtens family for our Thanksmas celebration. Of course by the time our "Curious Georgia" (Georgia) guests arrived, the weather dropped over 30 degrees in 24 hours. Thursday celebrated turkey day with lots of things for which to be thankful. Our prayers are filled with thanks for all of you...and for cookies, plates, tables, silverware and trees. The boys enjoyed making table decorations, place cards, and even our own butter. It was also great fun to jump on Grammy, GrampS and Uncle Drew and Aunt Allison every morning.

Because we won't all be able to be together on Christmas again, we celebrated our Scholtens family Christmas on Friday. We hung decorations and exchanged gifts, tackled each other and played hide and seek in the dark with our new head lamps. What fun!

The boys are full of fun right now and are always keeping us on our toes and laughing. Mac is doing so well in school and brings home all sorts of fun art projects to display around the house. He's become very proficient at the computer and likes using big words like excellent and spectacular. You think he might be our family thespian? Music is a favorite too. Ask him his favorite music and he'll tell you Vivaldi. (Not sure where he gets it!) He loves to perform, SWIM, SWIM, SWIM, and to be given a job. He's been known to ask to organize something, insist he needs no help doing laundry, cook in the kitchen or build in the backyard with Dad. There is no doubt he is a hard worker, we just need to find him enough things to keep him busy!

Bennett loves anything sports and balls and play. He'd like to watch his older cousins play football, basketball and throw a ball at anyone who will catch. His talking has become very good, but we like to giggle a little at the way he talks, because. each. word. seems. to. have. a. period. or. pause. at. the. eennnnddd. And the last word of his sentence is always drawn out longer than the others. Too cute. And the craziest thing is that he was moved into a big bed last week. He is loving it and hasn't had a single issue. He is just so proud.

Stay tuned, because in a few weeks these handsome fellas will be sporting a tuxedo in Miss Anna's and Mr. Chris' wedding!

Merry Christmas to you all! We love you!

This summer was a true adventure. We have stayed very busy, exploring the zoo, parks, Lake Michigan, the cottage, riding bikes and flying frisbees and chasing our cousins.

Macabe found his inner sense of adventure this summer. He loves to go tubing behind the boat or jetski (yes, our latest addition to the family). He will jump off of anything or anyone to make a splash in the water. From clinging to our legs just 1 1/2 years ago, he has come a long way. We weren't sure he was the adventuresome type...now we know better.

Bennett just turned two and is talking in full paragraphs, it seems. It is fun to hear the chatter between them. Bennett's found his love for fishing and hammock swinging. He's a little more laid back than his big brother. He prefers to stay dry more often. He will take you up anytime on an offer to ride in the boat or on the jetski, but best be warned, he prefers the fast rides. He's been known to fall asleep on a ride or two.

And now that Fall is upon us, Macabe has started "Three School" just two mornings a week. Below is a story of his first day dropping him off. Let the adventures begin!

Oh, what a sweetie. He was very nervous and wanted me know that he was very tired and was just going to stay home with me. I ended up giving him a sticker with an M on it to put on his hand and then kissed it. I told him it stood for Macabe and Mommy. And whenever he got sad, he could just kiss his M and know that I would be there to pick him up soon. He said ok and then nothing at all the rest of the way there. We got out of the car and walked up the steps. He looked down at his hand, gave the M two kisses and then openned the door. I love that little guy. Then I had to leave with Bennett in tears because he wanted to go to school with Mac. He had a good time and sang me a new song. The teacher said he asked four times when they were going to do Kindermusik. When I picked him up, he ran up to me and gave me a big hug, then turned and gave Bennett a giant hug and kiss. Wish I could have been a fly on the wall myself!